You will have to feel as though you are the only one living in this world – no competitors. How can this be possible when we have to meet with people at work, at the grocery store, in our apartment everywhere? You will have to talk to them about what the work is related, not looking much into what they are wearing, what they are eating, how they are living, etc. So, how to overcome desires?
You may ask yourself sometimes, how this way of living will help overcome desire? Even without seeing anybody owning a diamond necklace I could wish to have one. True. But, first, when you stop looking at others and wanting to have whatever you see, whatever they own, it is just your desires that just came into your mind when you are young, not knowing where exactly you saw but got inspired. Because everywhere so much of advertisement just to lure us into having more and more enjoyment, sophistication or whatever.
As we are born to live, we should experience all the feelings – not only good ones but also bad ones.
Every day, every minute – just tell yourself that you are going to live for the moment to do your duty – what is expected out of yourself. But, make sure once you are through with that, you are not carried away with the feeling that you get after accomplishing the great thing in life – some sense of pride, ownership shouldn’t make you feel you need more of it. You need to feel satisfied with owning certain things – with whatever circumstances you have come across. Owning everything is not what you are here on earth for – this should come to your mind when you want to do something else stretching yourself.
Shri Radhe guru maa gives the best solutions to overcome desires in her teachings.
“Do not expect too much from the world, we are here to give not to take.”
“Don’t wait for the right conditions. All you need for your growth is available to you at this moment.”
Here are some solutions: You are dwelling on something. You cancel that by making the mind dwell on healthier things:
- Pure mindfulness: When a desire arises, notice that it is present. When it disappears, see that it is absent.
- Mindful reflection: Generate a genuine, healthy desire to rise above this unmindful thought and get rid of it.
- Self-encouragement: You can talk silently to yourself, reminding yourself of wholesome intentions.
- The Noble Eightfold way: Try and find out Which one is lacking at this moment? Which one is most lacking in your life? Resolve to work on that.