Anger is a natural entity of our day to day life, but if you don’t express it in healthful way anger has the power to destroy trust and closeness between two people.
Unhelpful steps to deal with anger
Many people show their anger in inappropriate and harmful ways, including:
Anger explosions –
Some people have very little controllability over their anger and lead to exploding in rages. Raging anger may lead to physical abuse or violence. A person who doesn’t manage their temper can isolate themselves from family and friends. Some people who fly into rages have low self-esteem, and use their anger as a way to manipulate others and feel powerful.
Anger repression –
Some people consider that anger is an inappropriate or ‘bad’ emotion, and choose to suppress it. However, bottled anger often turns into depression and anxiety. Some people vent their bottled anger at innocent parties, such as children or pets.
It’s very important to learn anger control techniques if you have a quick temper.
Healthy steps to express anger
Here are some best ways to deal with anger and given healthy way to express it. Understand the following tips when you find yourself feeling angry:
Recognize your anger-
Sometimes people act on their anger before they fully know that they are struggling with the emotion.
Avoid taking out your anger on others-
Guide your anger at the cause of the emotions, rather than other people.
Don’t let anger mask other feelings-
People sometimes use anger to hide painful emotions that are difficult or uncomfortable to express, such as sadness or hopelessness.
Don’t wait for anger to build up-
Express your feelings and emotions as soon as you recognize them. If you hold them in, you are more likely to express anger in an unhealthy way.
Find a safe way to express your anger-
You can show and release your anger in some healthy ways, including:
- Discussing the causes of your anger with a trusted family member or friend
- Doing a physical activity while feeling your anger at its full intensity
- Practicing breathing technique which helps you to control anger
- Exploring therapies, such as massage, relaxation techniques, or music or art therapy