How can we forgive when our heart gets hurt so much? And an even better question, why do we have to forgive when they aren’t even sorry? Do you see them, Lord? Do you see how little they care? Choosing to forgive after being wounded may be one of the hardest decisions we make. Walking out that forgiveness daily will test our strength, our focus, and our commitment to walking in freedom.
Mamtamai Shree Radhe Guru Maa says, “Forgive someone not because they deserve it, but because it’s healthy for you.”
Not everyone will ask, and not everyone will be sorry for the hurt they created. Forgive them because your soul needs to be free.
If you want to open the door to forgiveness, but don’t know how to start, here are some helpful ideas to assist you to get started.
Pray for a forgiving heart
Forgiveness is most powerful when it is sincere and natural. The best place to start is with open communication with your Holy Father. Express your emotions like anger, hurt, and frustration. Ask for a softened heart capable of the strength to forgive.
Forgiveness does not mean we act like anything bad ever happened or that we aren’t hurting. Forgiveness needs honesty and vulnerability. Try to be merciful, but also be clear about what you feel and what has happened.
Be a giver of forgiveness. In the middle of arguments or disagreements, practice giving rather than taking before you exit. Giving involves leaving the ego behind. Bring love to hate, light to darkness, and pardon to injury. They’ll help you to overcome the ego and know the fullness of life.
Don’t live in the past- Be Present
When we find it tough to forgive, often it is because we are not living in the present, and instead, we assign more importance to the past. Practice living in the moment by appreciating the beauty around you now.